If you’re the parent of a foster child with intellectual and developmental disabilities (IDD), providing a safe and supportive environment is important during the holidays. With so many gatherings and changes in daily routines, the season can sometimes feel overwhelming. Creating a nurturing environment helps foster children feel secure, while also making it easier to talk openly about the mix of feelings that often accompany the holiday season. At RISE Services, Inc. Arizona, we encourage foster parents to use practical strategies to help every child feel cared for throughout the festivities.

1. Prepare for Gatherings

Holiday gatherings can feel unpredictable, especially for children who’ve experienced disruptions or changes. Helping foster children prepare in advance can ease anxiety and build trust. Before attending events, take time to talk through what to expect, including:

• Who will be at the gathering
• What activities might happen
• How the day will unfold

Visual schedules or social stories are valuable tools for individuals with IDD and can help everyone feel more confident.

2. Keep Routines Consistent

Routines make environments feel safe. Regular sleep times, familiar meal rituals, and quiet periods offer stability during an otherwise bustling season. If changes are necessary, provide plenty of notice and reassurance. Even when activities pop up, keeping essential routines as consistent as possible can help foster children feel comfortable and secure.

3. Empower with Choices

The holidays may feel overwhelming with so many unfamiliar options. Foster children benefit when they’re invited to make choices, even in small ways. Let them make decisions like what outfit to wear, which snack to bring, or which song to play. These opportunities to make choices foster independence, confidence, and a sense of belonging.

4. Validate Mixed Emotions

It’s natural to feel a range of emotions during the holidays. Children may experience joy alongside sadness, especially when they’re thinking of family members who are absent. Open conversations make it easier for foster children to share their feelings. Remind them that it’s okay to have mixed emotions and that their feelings are always valid.

5. Create New Traditions Together

Starting new traditions builds connection and helps foster children establish positive holiday memories. Simple ideas like baking cookies, crafting decorations, or picking out a favorite ornament offer meaningful ways to celebrate the season. Everyone is different, so traditions should reflect each child’s interests and needs.

Looking for More Support?

At RISE Services, Inc. Arizona, our mission is to provide opportunities for and with people. That’s why we’re dedicated to supporting individuals with IDD and their families during the holidays and year-round. 

So, if you’re looking for resources and community support as you foster a child with IDD, we’re here to help. Contact RISE Arizona today to learn more about our services and supports.